How to Get Over a Break-Up

How to Get over a Breakup (Advice I should Have taken)

Throughout this process you will go through the stages of grief, which are more complex than you realize and manifest in ways that you aren't always aware of
Do not contact them. Do not respond if they contact you. At least until you start eating again.
It's all going to be okay.
Listen to sad music, take bubble baths, indulge, cry
It's okay to go numb, it's okay to feel like you'll never be ok.
Listen to Human Condition by Chelsea Cutler.

You don't need to block them maliciously. I know you probably promised each other after your last relationships you'd never block each other. But for your own good, you have to ghost.
You also have to delete all your memories, not permanently. Just export all your pictures onto an external hard-drive and put anything you think you may want as a memory someday in a box to revisit later.

I highly doubt you're going to need the coffee mug he gave you for your birthday about if he had another girlfriend he'd punch her in the face and come find you or the photos you had taped up in your apartment.
- don't burn his favorite tee shirt, he might want it back
Throw it in the trash, burn it, break it.
- Invite your friends, get a little tipsy, and make sure to bring water and a golf club just in case
After you have played your burn him playlist and cleaned up your mess it's time to sage your space to rid it of his weak energy. He wasn't man enough to love you unconditionally.

Now that you've rid yourself of his memory, it's time to focus on yourself.
Get your nails done, change your hair, invest in skin care products, self-tan, start hydrating, eating healthier, and investing in the person you love most: yourself.
- I did my makeup on the hard days for 5 months after the breakup, and I can honestly say I felt better on the days I dressed up than the days I wore a hat and sweats.

Text all your best friends, even the one's you haven't talked to in a while.
You really find out who cares about you when your boyfriend walks away.
Your friends want to show up for you, let them.
If they say you can come over, GO!
You don't have to be alone in this.
In 20 years you won't remember the boy you dated for 6 months your junior year who broke your heart, you'll remember the friends who supported you in recovering from that loss and in your future endeavors.

You are a strong, independent woman.
You don't need a man to define you or complete you.
You can't be who you were with him and you can't go back to who you were before him.
You have to rediscover yourself and rebrand by inviting new experiences into your life
Practice saying yes!
- especially to late night study sessions, Costco runs, and splitting a pitcher of beer with your best friend
Choose a power color (I chose purple)
Invest in a few new wardrobe items (I chose leggings)
Start journaling, take up astrology, start a daily devotional, find ways to really connect with yourself and how you're feeling.

Forgiveness doesn't have to be expressed to your ex. You have to forgive for yourself
Forgive them for breaking promises, ruining plans, and changing your perception of love.
Forgive them for leaving you when you needed them the most.
Forgive them for taking you for granted, being incapable of accepting your love, and let that shit go.

It happens... your friend sends you a screenshot of his snapchat story, he comes up in your recent searches on twitter, a snapchat memory reminds you of a time when your love was alive... DO NOT FALL IN TO THE SPIRAL
Do not go and stalk all his social media platforms
- yes I know you stalked his LinkedIn, his SoundCloud, his AppleMusic, and his Twitter
Do not stalk his mom on facebook or try to figure out if he's moved on yet.
Protect your energy, he doesn't deserve an ounce of it.

You're going to say "I'm over it" a million times, only to realize you in fact are not over it and it still hurts like it did the day he said "I just don't love you anymore".
When you're finally over it you'll know because you won't care anymore.
You'll be happy enough in yourself to not care if he wants you back
When you're truly over it you find yourself eager to be loved by the right person; someone more capable of being a man of their word and choosing you.
If you see him out at a bar with a new girl, don't sweat it.
If you think he's doing fine, he's not.
If you think he deserves another shot, he doesn't.
The best thing he ever did was let you go to become who you were meant to be. Accept that. Thank him. Onward.